This page is NOT a place to get a date, find a mail order bride, or view Asian pornography. If you are interested in these things click HERE

What you WILL find here

• Introduction - How Asian Women Caucasian men are a uniquely matched couple.
• Links - A collection of links on Asians, Caucasians and interracial relationships.
• Why we need this site- The internet's failure, silly ideas people have.
• Issues - Philia vs. Fetish, the Asian man reacts, the neighborhood gossip.
• Spice vs. Soup - A little racial difference gives flavor to a relationship. But it should not be the whole relationship.

INTRODUCTION

This page is here to celebrate interracial dating, especially the interracial dating between Asian women and white (Caucasian men). Few would doubt that this is the most common interracial couple; go to any college campus and you are likely to see a white man and Asian woman together. The media is full of images of this couple; further proof of society's acceptance.

More than ever Asian women and Caucasian men are getting married, even having children. even (what will the neighbors say)

This site is here to say that the Asian woman/white male couple is a good thing. Let us celebrate it!

WHY WE NEED THIS SITE

Those of us who date other races need a site to talk about the joys of interracial dating, what we get from it. We also need to confront the misconceptions that abound in our society.

Reason 1: The internet is pathetic

Go to any internet search engine and search on "Asian women." You will find

• Pornography
• Mail order brides

I think a page dedicated to normal relationships between Asians and whites is needed. I want to battle the Pygmalion effect .

Reason 2: White Men Aren't Sick

Any white man who has a healthy attraction to an Asian woman risks being stereotyped as having an Asian fetish. I date Asian women about half the time. When I am with an Asian woman people think it is odd, or sick. Why don't they think it is odd or sick when I am with a white woman? The answer is simple: BIGOTRY!

Reason 3: Asian women aren't exotic sex objects

Many websites written by Asian women have a comment like: "if you have some kind of weird Asian fetish, go elsewhere." Obviously an Asian grrl on the net draws some flies. I hope this site will emphasize that Asian women are not exotic sex objects, but unique people with special traits unique to their culture.

Why are Asian women viewed this way? The answer is simple: SEXIST BIGOTRY!

Some Issues

WHY do Asian women and Caucasian men date so much? What is that bond between them?

Asian Men react to this page very strongly. Why is the Asian man, white woman couple so rare? What are some issues they face around Asian Women dating Caucasian men. Is Harry Kim the media'sfirst Asian male superstud?

What do people say when they see an asian/white couple.

Spice vs. Soup

Race, which includes the way someone looks and acts is just one factor in choosing a mate. It is kind of like the spice in soup. If we eat the spice alone it is overpowering and unhealthy. If we add the spice to soup it makes the soup so much better. The soup of a relationship is a mutual love and respect of the inner person. If we dispense of the soup we are left with nothing of value.

Different people like different spices. For instance, some women like tall men. This is an outward thing, it says nothing about his heart or the way he will treat her. It is just spice.

How is this any different from a man preferring black hair and golden skin?

Is this a big deal?

Some people have said, "why make a big deal out of this?" They say it doesn't matter. Well, they may have a point. It is not a big deal, but it is a deal. You have only to look at the comments in my guest book to see the strong feelings people have on this subject. A lot of people who are against interracial dating have made a big deal of this, so it is about time someone who is FOR it made a big deal.

I don't think I am alone in thinking it is a big deal; over 30,000 people visited this site in its' first nine months. About a hundred people a day come to this page, and at least 20% of them read the related pages.

Some would say race shouldn't matter.

I say it is a factor in who we chose to love, one that cannot be ignored. Like it or not, race is an issue in our love lives as well. Maybe we should start looking at the interracial aspect as a positive thing.

Some would say that to discuss this will perpetuate the stereotypes.

This is a hard issue for me. On the one hand I think we should accept people for who and what they are, and not prejudge them on their race. On the other hand, our race is part of who we are; I will draw many generalizations on this page, each person is unique.

No person is defined solely by their race. However, to pretend that race is not part of who we are is denial. No matter how you act or feel, people will treat you differently because of your racial apperance.

Other Views - Links

Here are some other thoughts/websites on Asian Women and Caucasian Men dating. Some I like, some I hate, some I have mixed feelings.

I also want to hear from others on the issues you see on this site even if I don't agree with you. Here are a few interesting perspectives on whites dating Asians.

• Asian Man's View - Tanaka's Homepage: This is one of the most comprehensive site for exploring Caucasian/Asian dating. Tanaka has collected thoughts from dozens of people. He discusses the disparity between Asian Men and Asian Women dating. I disagree with most of Tanaka's opinions.
• A White Womans Views Courtney Weavers article in Salon Magazine. She makes some very subtle digs at white men who prefer Asian women. What I find particularly offensive is the implication of pedophillia (one of the things I spoof with the title of this page); she forgets that the relationships are between two mutually consenting healthy adults.
• Profile of an Asiaphile: A rather amusing look at Asiaphile's. I suspect this was written by an Asian male. Sometimes humor sends a strong message...I don't agree with his message, but it is very witty.
• The National Review examines the issue: Here is another opinion I disagree with-- from the radical right wing of the conservative whites. I contacted the writer. He was unable to give a source for his statistics leading me to believe the paper is subjective.
• If you know a good link, let me know and I might post it . Even if I disagree with it.

The Most Important Viewpoint

Your opinions are welcome. You can talk with other visitors at the discussion forum, or just leave a comment at the guestbook.

Discussion Forum For in depth discussion. Sorry you have to sign up to view the discussion. I am looking for a discussion forum where you can view without signing in, but have to register to participate.

View Guest Book as you can see A LOT of people have a LOT of opinions on us interracial daters. The guestbook is unmoderated and open to anyone.

Sign Guest Book has a 1000 character limit but doesn't expire.

Write a web page for this site - As the site grows it is increasingly becoming the work of many people. If you will look at some of the other essays they are written by people of all walks of life...every race and gender. We want more viewpoints. This site is dedicated to being a place where whites and Asians can talk it all out. If you think you have a good topic please Send it to US!